Hidden within even the darkest, most appalling parenting moments… is a gift
Hidden within even your darkest, most appalling parenting moments… is a GIFT
It’s not just any gift, it holds immense power and it’s a gift that you most need.
Finding it and claiming it is key to so much of the change you long to make in your parenting and your whole experience of motherhood.
The thing is, the first step in finding it is to change your relationship with the dark, icky, appalling moments that’ve had you feel full of self blame, shame and guilt.
As long as you continue to lose yourself in blame, shame and guilt each time you make a parenting mistake…
As long as you make yourself so wrong in the moments you make mistakes…
As long as you wish those shameful moments away and hide them from the rest of the world...
You will continue to keep that gift well and truly hidden from yourself
AND you will continue to make those mistakes and carry the shame and guilt around with you.
The first step in finding the gift is to be with the 'mistakes', be honest with yourself about them (which is different to beating yourself up about them)
and acknowledge that the mistakes and messiness are also a part of you- NOT ALL OF YOU but a part of you
(remember that everyone carries their own messy mistakes, you really don’t have more than others, and even if you doubt it could be possible, there is always a gift in there).
When you get to the point where you don’t shrink and shudder at claiming (to yourself and others) that you can be ______
{violent}, {selfish}, {out of control}, {neglectful}, {manipulative}, {tyrannical}, {permissive}, {flaky}, {manipulative}, {dishonest}, {addicted}, {checked out}, {greedy}, {vain}, {obsessive}
When you can OWN YOUR SHADOWS…
Only then can you begin to discover the gift inside it.
And only then will you realise how much you have needed that gift to be a well rounded parent, mother, woman and human being.
Only then will you realise that the gift not only helps you meet your needs, it helps you meet your child’s needs too…
in a much deeper way than you could have even imagined possible before you went through that process of claiming and welcoming the mess and finding the gift within.
Shadow work is powerful stuff!
and it is especially powerful in motherhood because mothers place so much expectation on ourselves and make ourselves so wrong for not meeting them (hence pushing the shadows down further and further and making sure the gifts are far from accessible).
We have supported so many mothers into claiming their shadows and finding the gifts within
and EVERY SINGLE TIME it is transformational and incredibly liberating.
If you are ready to liberate yourself from the shadows and OWN YOUR LIGHT AND YOUR POWER...
then we invite you to watch our FREE 'Happy, Whole Mother Masterclass'- https://mothersawakening.mykajabi.com/p/happywholemother
In it you'll learn the sacred shifts you need to take to step out of stuckness, shame & fears that your baggage is damaging your children and step into a healthy whole mother who parents from her greatest light.
We're excited to share it with you!
LOVE Lisa and Kaya
xx