connection parenting conscious communication conscious parenting feminine energy flow parenting inner truth intuition self care May 31, 2021
I became a mother when I was 20 (I remember laying in bed with a 3 week old baby and mastitis on my 21st birthday๐ต).
I was finishing off my first year of uni and had big dreams of all kinds of epic โจ
๐world changing work I was going to do and lots of possible life plans - none of which included having children anytime soon...
But when I discovered I was pregnant, I just knew I was going to have my baby๐คฑ
After a few weeks of intense emotional turmoil I realised I needed to get into alignment with the choice I was making.
I chose to ๐ embrace
๐ my child and the sacred work of motherhood as fully and wholly as I could.
I was already someone who (semi obsessively) studied a lot so I turned that obsession away from uni and towards the art of raising whole and healthy children ๐ฑ
(which, I discovered when in the trenches is an ๐ฅINTENSE journey and not one you can just learn about in books and then seamlessly apply!)
I had my hands full parenting and studying... Yet I didn’t seem able to study just for the sake of my own personal development- I kept automatically turning my learning into professional development and I’d share it with others ๐คฒ
I studied course after course, but each one had an element of learning how to be a practitioner, facilitator, coach or healer and I found myself focusing so much on the continuous juggle๐คน between parenting and career.
I was so driven to do both as well as I could... especially when I became a single mother of two while they were still young.
I was driven to be everything I could possibly be-๐ฉ๐ง๐ฆfully present for my kids
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๐ช feeling successful in my work.
That drive (and all the expectations I had of myself) became a really heavy weight to carry โ๏ธ
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(especially on top of all the everyday stuff that needed to happen in order for our lives to function๐คฏ).
I was telling myself that if I kept pushing forwards ๐ค I’d eventually get to a place where everything felt easier, more abundant and spacious
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that I’d reach some magical level of flow ๐where all the pressure no longer exists... but that pushing forwards didn’t have the desired outcome!
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I always knew I’d pushed too hard when I had what I came to call my toilet breakdowns ๐ฝ
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I’d be sitting alone on the toilet, taking just enough of a pause for everything to catch up with me and I’d fall apart ๐ญ
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I’d unravel and break down into a heap of messy, crying ‘I can’t cope-ness’.
I remember feeling so exhausted, alone, spent, ground down and hollowed out ๐ง
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It took me a while to work out how to navigate these toilet breakdowns so they came around to visit me every so often and I kept on pushing forwards the same way I had been for years
(it’s amazing how stuck and blind ๐ and yet also resilient we can be!).
The last toilet breakdown I remember having began a similar way- me feeling utterly helpless and sorry for myself... but I was so freaking done โ with this pattern that I chose to make healing it my biggest priority- everything else could wait
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I began with the simple act of being present with what I was feeling and allowing it to move ๐ฆ
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I then realised how so disconnected I had become from myself. I touched a grief I’d been carrying at losing ME ๐...
Losing a truly soulful, slow and lingering relationship with ME ๐ ... Not just with my role as a mother and not just with my work engaging with others in the world.
There was a ME underneath all of that ๐ฆ Underneath all the busyness, pushing and being there for others... and I had thoroughly neglected her!
Despite all my extensive learning in personal development, healing and healthy relating, I'm embarrassed to admit that I was barely using the work for ME.
I made my relationship with me such a low priority that I convinced myself I didn’t have time or a real enough need- and that had to change ๐งโ๏ธ
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๐ So began my journey back home to myself
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and while there was already a lot of beauty in my relationships with my children and in the sacred work I was doing ๐น
when I came to them connected with myself and grounded in my personal power ๐ฅ then my relationships and my work received a fuel that had not ever been there before. I brought them alive on a whole other level...
And I had no more toilet breakdowns! ๐
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Reconnecting with yourself is not the only solution when you’re feeling stretched, overwhelmed and burnt out...
but it is a HUGE part and it is the first step (because YOU are the common denominator that makes all things in your life happen-so you matter rather a lot!).
I now make my own healing ๐งโ๏ธ and reconnecting
๐ my priority- because that opens up space for everything else!
It brings me the spaciousness I need to truly connect with my children and to do my work with power and soul! ๐
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You’ve got this, wise woman!
LOVE Kaya
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