The #1 key to more joy and ease in motherhood
(and the not so empowering side effect of feminism)
Yes, the feminist movement has actually taken us further away from the state of being we need to reside in to most enjoy motherhood!
Read on...
Generations ago woman began to rise up, tired of being second rate citizens, devalued, not given a voice, not given the same rights and privileges, being limited to certain roles and stereotypes in a masculine energy dominated world.
They rose up to declare that was no longer acceptable - and we are grateful to them for doing so!
This was necessary and empowering and played it’s part in bringing more balance to our relationships and our society.
But...The approach they took to reclaiming power took them so far away from their feminine essence and thus their internal power and innate wisdom. They looked at what the men had and demanded it too - not just from men, from within themselves as well.
They chose to take on and prioritise the masculine approach to all things. They saw who had power and how they had gotten it. The saw all the systems within society, medical, education etc that held respect and power , that all operated in a strongly masculine energy frame.
They declared that they too could master this way of being just as well as men. And for the most part they succeeded. They did place many masculine ways of being at their core, they moved into the masculine systems and the masculine approach to fields of endeavor. They studied, they applied diligently and they succeeded. In so many areas, as the years past, woman rose to go head to head with men - using the masculine essence and succeeding.
It was an important pivotal time in history but the cost for women was high and the consequences on the experience of motherhood were devastating.
More and more mothers claim that mothering (and also co-parenting) is a hard and thankless task. Mothers have struggled, their levels of frustration, fatigue and isolation have risen as the generations passed.
The common experience of mothers we talk to is a desperate desire for more joy, more ease, more energy, more freedom, more flow, better relationships and connection with their loved ones. Less frustration, less boredom, less isolation.
Mothers are seeking a return of the Divine Feminine in our experience of motherhood.
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You’ve probably heard of the concept of the Divine Feminine, at least in passing. The movement around its return and the coming back into balance, the entering of a new era.
Women worldwide are talking about it. Women are feeling it within our own bodies, that connection to a deeper, greater wisdom within.
All over, women and men are beginning to bring it through, in feminine sexuality, feminine business models, red tent revivals, more feminine influences in health, community organisation, ecological awareness and economics etc
Yet, it’s surprisingly not talked about so much through the lens of Motherhood.
The very act of Motherhood is a divine act of the feminine so how we experience Motherhood is an integral part of the return of the Divine Feminine.
On a larger scale, mother’s are bringing forth the next generation on the planet and that is some powerful change agency potential! To raise children from within your feminine essence, to be a model for living empowered and feminine means you are innately and naturally balancing and integrating the feminine energy and its gifts into the future of the planet.
So being in and relating from your Feminine Essence is important!
And, just before we go into how you can do that, let's make sure we are on the same page :)
Everyone needs both masculine and feminine energies. You need to use them both throughout the day to be in balance, they complement each other and work together.
They will both always be within you and you need both. What’s important is which essense sits at your core, which is at your center. Which sits in the drivers seat, directing your life.
Everyone has that energy that they feel most at home with, that feels expansive, liberating, freeing and relaxing, like a sigh of relief. For the most part in our experience, mothers feel more at home with the feminine energy at our core.
The initiation into motherhood is an act completely and divinely of the feminine. The act of bringing forth life, regardless of your birth stories is an act of the divine feminine. Motherhood is initiated in the feminine, and it is of the feminine throughout, at its core.
When you entered into the sacred act of bringing forth, guiding and mentoring the next generation you were never meant to do it out of your natural alignment - without your feminine energy sitting at your core.
The feminine energy is one of the most amazing gifts to motherhood- it’s seriously a needle mover.
Really.
When you drop into your feminine energy, when you are consciously in your body more of the time, speaking and moving from within your body, listening from within your body, following your body’s cues, getting stuff done without pushing it to get done then your interactions with your children will be more peaceful and and your experience of all the daily tasks will be more enjoyable.
It moves you into a place of easy and synchronicity with your children
When you embrace an experience of flowing with what life unexpectedly brings you, at least a little more than actively controlling what happens then your life as a mother will be so much more harmonious than you can imagine because you are moving from a deeper feminine wisdom within.
You are moving into a place of flow, ease, calm and relaxation.
When you choose to practice a state of being a little more than doing. Simply being with what is, be it your child’s emotions, the housework or daily appointments. Allowing the energy of something greater to move through you so the doing happens through your being with what is then your whole experience of Motherhood changes for the better.
You are then being with your children, in the moment from a place of peace and joy, fully receiving each moment of joy, and gratitude.
When you get out of your busy, chattering, worrying, judging, assessing, evaluating mind more of the time and get in touch with your deeper Inner Wisdom or Intuition, when you listen for the YES’s within your body and follow them then you will be proud of the mother you are each day and you will experience Motherhood with the grace, joy and beauty of a Goddess.
You move into a more intuitive space, with greater access to empathy and ease at understanding what’s going on for others.
When you allow your feminine essence to be in the driver’s seat then you can work with all the complex energies of your family with ease.
You are far more creative in problem solving and conflict resolution.
Your ability to hold loving space and receive your loved ones will amplify.
and of course Connection - connection is of the feminine. Connection to your self and connection to your children. When you choose to practice connection parenting or attachment parenting then you are choosing a philosophy grounded in the feminine and more often than not, you are trying to implement it from a masculine energy! Not only is this a much more difficult and unsustainable way to go about it, it also means you can only access a small percentage of the true gifts of the philosophy.
When the feminine is at your core then you can shift as needed between the masculine and feminine energies but you experience the flow that only comes from being in your true essence.
So, here is a practice for you to immerse yourself in today...
In each interaction with your children, simply pause and breathe. Instead of jumping in to create a solution or fill in the space practice being with what is and trusting how it flows.
Do this in as many moments as you can and take note of what happens afterwards, notice how this practice affects your interactions with your children.
To anchor this practice into your awareness Speak this Sacred Intention to yourself~
This sacred intention is your reminder of your practice, breathe it in now and say it regularly all this week, make it your go to mantra for motherhood.
Immersing yourself in one single practice instead of trying to master a whole philosophy or technique is the key to creating true sustainable change. Our next blog post is all about this power of the single practice so look out for it!
Another step you can take is to receive this month’s meditation from our Free Monthly Goddess Meditation Circle.
Each month we share either a short meditation or a coaching process all designed to support you to be the mama you most want to be. You’ll get a bonus meditation as soon as you sign up and then each month we’ll send you a new one.
This month we are sharing a 13 minute guided meditation to bring you into and anchor you in your womb space, your first power center as a woman. We'll guide you into your Womb Space and anchor you there and then we'll take you through a process to bridge the divide between your Womb and your Heart.
To join our meditation circle put your name and email in the box on this page and you’ll receive them in your inbox each month.
So Now, It’s your turn to share!
Send us an email ([email protected]) and let us know
Do you tend to jump in and ‘Do', controlling the situation more than allowing it to unfold (eg. when your children are fighting or when they come to share something with you)?
How do you imagine the practice of ‘Being before Doing’ would support your interactions with them?
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