The Power of the Single Practice

If you are like pretty much every mother we have ever worked with or talked to:

You’ve read the books, had numerous conversations, both online, and in real life. You’ve understood the theories. You have tons of information, philosophies, solutions and strategies crammed into your mama mind.

In fact what you very likely have is information overload (nearly every mother in the western world does).

All that information can be a lot to hold on to and more importantly access in the moment. It makes it extremely hard to let any of this new information “kick in” - in the moment.

We get that, in fact its one of the number one things mothers coming to work with us tell us, and we have experienced it ourselves countless times.

What you know in your head is not what is coming out of your mouth in the moment. Or maybe you’re not even totally clear on what you know because you have read so many contradicting things and it all just feels like a jumble of theory.

This can be paralyzing and it leaves a pause, a void in your ability to respond and so what comes in to fill that void is habit, and conditioned responses triggered by your fears, worries, thoughts, and emotional reactions.

These habits run along comfortably worn tracks in your mind, neural pathways that have been trodden all your life (despite you hating that you do it).

So instead…..

At the core of nearly all our courses, coaching and teaching is the concept of “the power of the single practice.”

What we encourage and guide you to do is to pull out one single practice - consistently. That one truest piece of resonance for you right now. The one that ignites a YES within your body.

Write that one practice down - preferably in many places.

Your practice aligns with and flows from your intentions, it’s the one thing to remember. Just one single practice to hold in your awareness. Forget about everything else.

You’ll be surprised what cascades into your memory when you need it to - if you have one current practice.

Your one single practice becomes your answer to changing your habits and actually implementing change in-the-moment.
It is -
• a pattern interrupt
• an anchor to your intentions as it helps you stay aligned with them in the moment.
• a switch that moves you into consciousness and conscious choice.

There are an infinite number of ways any family dynamic can be interpreted and navigated through and that is as it should be. Your solution must be unique to you, your family and your personal code as a mother.
The Power of the Single Practice gives you those unique solutions.

So what is a practice?

A practice is one simple in-the-moment action you can take. It is the practice you consciously choose to integrate and experiment with.

Within your Practice there is a triad that holds it all together.

1) Your Intention
2) Your Energy (the energy you want to embody or give off)
3) Your Practice (the action you want to enact)

Any and all of these can be recalled when you have given some thought to your practice ahead of time. In the coaching process we’ll be taking you through, you’ll get you clear on all three.

The Intention, Energy and Practice you choose work together, however any one of them can be what you recall in the moment. If what floats to your awareness is your intention or the energy you want to hold this week then use that. Inevitably whichever you recall first will bring the others naturally to mind to further align you.

You may also find that you interpret your intention in the moment based on the current context and a slightly different practice flows from that moment. It's all good :).

What’s important is your alignment between your Intentions, your Energy and your Actions - (your practice) and this process creates that alignment.

When you are in alignment... well that’s when you parent the way you feel good about. That’s when what you want to do and what you actually do in the moment is the same thing!

This process of setting or creating a current Core Intention and a current Single Practice allows you to easily flow from Conscious Intention into Conscious Action.

This shift from desire, emotion and intention (the feminine) into action (masculine) and staying congruent in this transition from the Inner to the Outer is where people most often stumble. From wanting and intending, to actually doing (in the moment).

Setting one current Single Practice is the simplest and most natural way we have found to transition from the wanting to the actual doing.

Are you worried your practice won’t come to your awareness during the most crazy moments in your busy mama days?

That’s a common concern but in our experience if you actually claim a practice, set the intention to be open to the opportunities to recall it and briefly remind yourself of it in the morning, then it will flow into your mind during the day.

I have found that doing all of the above is enough to make me remember and enact my practice and experience the transformations that flow from it, but try it out and see for yourself.

Other things our clients do is write their current practice on a slip of paper and put it up around the house or in their purse. Or they set an alarm on their phone to go off a couple times a day just to remind themselves.

The key here is that your practice be small enough that it is doable under stress and doable consistently.

One of the most powerful practices you can start with is to simply take one conscious deep breath - breathe! Before you do or say anything.

Seriously that is a great practice, and notice how small it is. Here’s an example of some other practices
• Assume best intent
• Speak from the I
• Open my energy
• Does everyone feel heard?
• Ask yourself - How is this also me?
• Remind yourself- I am Enough
• ‘From my Womb Space’

(By the way the list of potential practices is endless and yours are unique to you)

Through the magic of this process you will also find that once you immerse yourself in your practice (actually do it!), all sorts of other insights, ideas, inspired actions and past knowledge naturally and effortlessly flow into your mind once you trigger your Intention, Energy or Practice.

So once you have a practice:

Look for all the ways you can practice your practice! - and watch what happens. You don’t need to force the day to fit your practice - No!

Instead just allow the day to be what it is and let your practice weave into it, your practice is just along for the ride.

Make it your art form for a whole week, see all the variations and ways (both surprising and expected) that you can enact this practice. Really soak and absorb in that one sentence.  Anytime you are unclear on which way to go in a situation enact your practice.

What springs from this process is an amazing amount of insights and revelations. Surprise gifts and results... and of course you are actually building a new neural pathway and making it well trodden. This is the only way you will bypass that old well worn path (habit) that you hate!

Seriously, so many cool and unexpected things spring from this amazingly simple process.

You will also find that if you claim the same practice at a later date it will be different. It will go deeper, or wider, or travel a different path.  This is another of the gifts of the simplicity yet richness of the single practice.

It is the process of enacting your practice, of choosing it, that switches you in to accessing consciousness. It overcomes resistance and begins to rebuild your neural pathways, actually remapping your default responses and changing the habits you so much want to shift.

Immerse yourself in your practice. Look for any opportunity to try it on. Become an explorer and master of that one single sentence.

If you feel more comfortable with a more concrete implementation challenge yourself to enact your practice once a day, or 3 times a day.

Take a couple of breaths, relax. Gently think over your family dynamic for the last day or so, think about the day ahead.

Now without forcing, allow a piece of your knowledge and wisdom to float to the surface by asking yourself-

“What one small strategy that I’ve tried, read or heard about would best serve my family and I at the moment?”

Don’t think too hard about it. If you’re really stuck don’t worry, next time we’re going to take you through our step by step process for claiming, creating and refining the perfect practice for you and your family.

If you haven’t found one yourself, try on the power of the single practice by going with one we suggest :)

“Assume Best Intent”

- Yeah, I’m sure you’ve heard it, but that’s great!
That will help to illustrate how powerful this process is even more!

So instead of just waving it off and going ‘oh yeah, I know’...  Instead make that your practice-

Master that one phrase as an art form this week.

And let us know how it goes for you, send us an email at [email protected]

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