Why self blame, self shame and self guilt make parenting so much harder
Self-blame, Self-shame, Self-guilt
Are you internalising these constructs and using them in a misguided attempt to make sure you show up as the best mother/ person you can possibly be?
To control yourself and to “make” yourself a good person
You are ALREADY a good person.
You don’t need blame, shame and guilt. These constructs DO NOT support or encourage your growth and expansion.
They keep us small and limited, they keep us hiding, they keep us pretending and they keep us longing for what we believe is outside of us and unattainable.
In reality BLAME, SHAME AND GUILT will keep you stuck, unmoving, where you are. They will stunt your growth and keep you from ever stepping into your light, which is where you want to be, right?
There is no mother on the planet that has not had experiences of showing up in a way that felt crap to them. That felt like in that moment she was a terrible mother and that she was screwing up or damaging her children.
No mother who hasn't felt ashamed of how she has acted or the words she has said.
No mother who hasn't felt grief, sorrow and mountains of regret.
Who hasn't wished she had just showed up differently (given how many tools she has in her parenting toolkit that she could have chosen instead!).
BUT that blame, shame and guilt -
THEY AREN’T THE ANSWER, they just keep us stuck.
They aren’t what allows us to grow, evolve and transform.
Stop for a second and ask yourself do you believe that if you...
blame your child
shame your child
lay mountains of guilt on your child
that you are setting them up for learning and growing?
I know you don’t think thats the best thing to do :)
- then why would you think its ok to do to yourself and expect yourself to grow?
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LOVE Lisa and Kaya
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